Is Botox Ruining Our Ability to Communicate?
Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of "Financial Foreplay" and "On The Shoulders of Giants
The Botox revolution has become the most talked about “look-young quick” scheme in a long list of physical enhancement options marketed to us by the media and the medical industry. Fuelled by our obsession with youth and beauty, they are only too happy to oblige our insecurities and vanity by presenting new and exciting ways for us to part with our hard earned cash in an attempt to look less like our authentic selves and more like someone else… namely Angelina Jolie, Miranda Kerr or some other age defying celebrity.
When did we decide that older no longer means wiser, and in fact, now means unattractive and unwanted? When did plastic become fantastic, exactly?
Are You Making This Common Mistake & Getting Everything You DON’T Want?
Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of "Financial Foreplay" and "On The Shoulders of Giants
Have you ever heard somebody say to another person “Don’t spill that coffee.” and seen that exact thing happen, that you know will happen…. which is that they do spill the coffee by accident!
Right now you are laughing because it is funny. It is funny because it happens all the time. For some reason it seems the more you tell someone NOT to do something, the more likely it is that it WILL happen. Why is that? Sometimes we attribute it to simple disobedience – for example a child testing a parent, when the parent has said “don’t do that.”
However, it is more than just a simple testing of the boundaries. There is a biological, scientific reason for this and it has to do with the way that our brains are wired.
So why do we always seem to do the very thing that we are told not to do?
You Get The Life You Deserve
Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of "Financial Foreplay" and "On The Shoulders of Giants
I have been fortunate to discover that there is a reason for all things – even those that are senseless and incomprehensible – and that we have to somehow learn to trust that there is a bigger picture that perhaps we, as mere human beings, can never truly understand.
The most beautiful expression of this idea I’ve ever read was in a children’s book ‘Little Soul in the Sun’ by Neil Donald Walsh. In the story, Walsh talks of a Little Soul who wants to be incarnated as a human being to learn ‘forgiveness’. A Friendly Soul agrees to oblige him by incarnating as a person to do something to the Little Soul that will help him learn the lesson of forgiveness. But the Friendly Soul issues a plea of caution and says, ‘at the very moment that I strike you down, please promise me that you will remember who I really am, a Friendly and loving Soul, otherwise we will be doomed to repeat the process over and over again until we get the learnings or until another Little Soul comes down to help us find the way out.’ Read more
Are You Trying To Make the EASY Way Look Hard?
Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of "Financial Foreplay" and "On The Shoulders of Giants
What if I told you that YOU are you’re own worst enemy? Would you be offended or would you smile and agree, because you know it’s true. It’s true for ALL of us.
You can tell a lot about a business person by the way they spend their time. We all spend our time in various ways. Many business owners and senior executives tell me that there is not enough time in the day to get everything done. Personally, I have a belief that there is always enough time in the day to do all of the things that are WORTH doing. The key is to identify what is worth your while.
Sometimes activity can be a kind of anesthesia for the pain of not achieving the results you want and deserve. Action is always better than procrastination. However, more activity is not always better than less.
When Is “I Don’t Know” The Right Answer?
Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of "Financial Foreplay" and "On The Shoulders of Giants
Lily Allen may not be an authority on business, but she hit the nail on the head with her honest, irreverent spin on a timeless mystery – “how to know what to do when you have no idea and you’re not prepared”. In her platinum selling song, she sings:
I don’t know what’s right and what’s real anymore
And I don’t know how I’m meant to feel anymore
When do you think it will all become clear?
Everyone knows that we have been conditioned NOT to admit that we don’t know all of the right answers. Even though we know it’s not true, our teachers, bosses, politicians and even the media have modelled this “fake it until you make it” mentality. Since the mind doesn’t know the difference between a real or imagined event, acting ‘as if’ seems like the logical solution to temporary uncertainty, or does it?
“I don’t know” is a simple phrase. Simple and powerful at the same time. While there can be no doubt that to use it denotes uncertainty and the risk of embarrassment, with it comes an attribute that is far more rare and influential…authenticity!
Over the course of my life, I have been asked some difficult questions both personally and professionally – I’ve been put on the spot, caught unprepared and left exposed and vulnerable. Many times, I racked my brain to come up with the answer – a plausible response that hit the nail on the head or got me out of jail [metaphorically speaking] for free! Other times, I just got lucky.
But occasionally I must admit, “I just don’t know!” I simply cannot say for sure. I just don’t have the answer right now.
Sometimes admitting you don’t know can be the most empowering, intelligent, authentic and liberating response that you can offer. Compared to stumbling through a half baked idea, outright lying or trying to pull a cohesive response out of thin air, admitting you don’t know is a sane solution to this diabolical dilemma.
To be honest, none of us has “The Answer” to everything. If you think you do, chances are you know even less than you thought! If someone has taken the time to ask a question and placed their trust in your expertise, they deserve pearls of wisdom not propaganda.
In fact, in order to be a true leader and to earn authority, which is the foundation of your ability to influence others, it is simply not enough to be knowledgeable. You also need to be truthful. Therefore, in order to master the power of influence, you must establish yourself as both honest and powerful in your communications.
When in doubt, “I don’t know but I will find out” is the best answer.
The ONLY SECRET You Need to Know About Presenting Masterfully…
Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of "Financial Foreplay"
One of the wonderful things about personal characteristics like confidence or preparedness is that if you pretend to have them, you have them immediately. Since the mind doesn’t know the difference between a real or imagined event, acting ‘as if’ is a logical and sensible solution to temporary uncertainty!
Because our mind has such a profound influence on our external experience, choosing to adopt beneficial emotional states is the first step to truly mastering your life. All that we are and have experienced to date is a result of what we have imagined to be true in our minds. If we are unhappy with the results, our experience can be changed as quickly as we can change our minds and imagine a new meaning. Read more
Are You Ready to Get Serious About Your Business?
Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of "Financial Foreplay"
Imagine you are playing an important game of tennis. It’s the club final and you are the favorite to win. There is a big crowd watching and as the game progresses, everything seems to be going to plan. You’re playing well and you’re winning points. Victory can’t be far away. There is only one problem: there is no scoreboard, and the umpire is keeping the score to herself. So no one except the umpire knows what’s really going on.
Nevertheless, you plough on and, despite being in the dark about the score, you feel positive that eventually the umpire will declare you the winner. You are so confident that you can’t help but relax just a little. You start enjoying the party like atmosphere. Read more
Are You Ashamed to Admit That You Actually Watch “The Apprentice”?
Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of "Financial Foreplay"
There’s nothing like a good train wreck. We all know that we are not supposed to watch. It’s not politically correct to have a sticky beak and take a peek at the misfortune of others. But WE just can’t help ourselves, can we?
The Apprentice is a reality-show-train-wreck like no other. Where else can you find a group of 12 ambitious contestants who don’t have an ounce of talent, business acumen, common sense or humility between them? I mean seriously, where did Channel 9 get these people? They are touted as 12 of Australia’s top minds. If that is true, God help us all.
Do We Really Need To PUSH Women onto Corporate Boards?
Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of "On The Shoulders of Giants"
When I first arrived in this country several years ago, I struggled to find anyone who would hire me in a senior management capacity. I found this puzzling since I have two degrees, two professional designations and very solid work experience with recognized international brands. The MAIN reason I was given by organizations was that I “lacked Australian work experience”. I found this reason to be puzzling.
We live in a world where there are few global trading boundaries. Every business is susceptible to the threat of losing customers to internet-based businesses (which in many cases sell the same products for less) and we need to think outside of the square to compete and maintain market share.
My track record in business speaks for itself – plus I was named Online Retailer of the Year for Canada in 2001 by the Retail Sales Council of Canada. And yet, I initially struggled to get General Managment positions because I didn’t have enough “Australian experience”. Doesn’t everyone else in these organizations already have enough Australian experience? Why did need it in order to contribute and add value? Shouldn’t my international and internet retailing experience have made a welcome, diverse addition to any senior managment team or Board?
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You Don’t Have to Be Oprah To Be Popular on Twitter!
Rhondalynn Korolak, Author of "On The Shoulders of Giants"
More important than originality or intrigue, is the ability for a writer to help us experience the world in new and meaningful ways. Far beyond the obvious - the power of words to make you hear, to make you feel, to make you see—and above all to make you dream. Words hold the power to define and eradicate boundaries – both physical and mental.
Twitter has the potential to separate the literary men (and women) from the mice! Where else can you say so little or so much with 140 mere characters? I would advocate that if you can master the following Twitter secrets, you will have learned all that there is to become a better, faster, more concise, compelling and articulate writer. Read more